You're born into a family. You do not join them like you do the Marines.
During a recent pastors luncheon, Bruce White asked a question, the gist of which was, "Would your kids want to grow up and have a family like the one of which they are a part?"
In other words, would your kids say, "When I grow up, I want to have a family just like this one"?
That's a sobering question, isn't it?