Friday, November 14, 2008

I wanna marry you because you're the first person I wanna look at when I wake up in the morning, and the only one I wanna kiss goodnight.

In a movie I saw recently, I found the following dialogue about relationships interesting:
  • April: “Forget about the 'real' deal. You don’t find it, it finds you …you know, when you are ready for marriage, a mortgage … the person that you are with THEN is the one.”
  • Will: “So, it’s not WHO; it’s WHEN?”
A question I have often been asked regarding when/whom to marry is, "How do you know?"

How do you know (s)he is the right one?
How do you know you're ready?

Really, what is often wondered is, "How do I know someone better won't come along?"

What advice do you give in these areas? If married, how did you know?

P.S. A Happy Anniversary to my mom & dad!

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At 14 November, 2008 11:12, Blogger Timothy said...

I don't think there is a "right" person, but one who fits the bill: are they believers? Do you like them? Will they give you a good back rub? OK, the last question is a bit of a personal thing, but alas, you get the idea. There are right type of people to marry and wrong types.

The problem in Christian circles is that we keep looking to Hollywood for our definition of what true love and true marriage should be, from actors and actresses who change marriages like we change oil in our cars. Who are they to be telling us? Look to God and His word, know that marriage will be difficult even if you find the "perfect" person, and know that you will have to actually die to yourself in order for it to work.

Also know that you will second guess yourself. Don't do it. Trust in the sovereignty of God. He is the One that brings us together. Trust His decision, live with it, make it work, and rejoice that it does.

At 14 November, 2008 15:01, Anonymous billie hartman said...

When my husband was a teenager, his mother told him to ask himself if he wanted the person he dated to be the mother of his children. I believe that was good advice. Thanks for the anniversary wishes.

At 14 November, 2008 15:09, Blogger Amy said...

Some one once told me that there are a lot of people you could live with, but to look for the one that you can't live without and marry that one.

I remember in one worship service in college, looking over at Cody praising our amazing Lord, and thinking right then, that is the man I am going to marry.

At 15 November, 2008 13:26, Blogger Lance said...

I'm glad my wife didn't see Cody worshiping before she met me.

At 17 November, 2008 08:48, Blogger samurai said...

There are times when I look at my beloved and ask, "What was God thinking?" - not because we are not compatible, but why she would have to suffer through life with me. ;)

The first time I met my wife I had been set up on a blind date with her roommate from college. A friend of mine has set up a meeting at the home coming football game as a "neutral place" for us to meet (me and my blond date). Well, the three of us ended up talking the entire game. A few days later, while I was on top of a ladder working on someone's gutters I distinctly remember a "Bill Cosby skit-like moment". It was almost like the Holy Spirit tapped me on the should to ask if I had been paying attention.

For me it was never a question about if she was the one I wanted to raise my children, or if I wanted to wake up ever day next too. I was just not that deep at the time.

At 17 November, 2008 14:10, Blogger Lance said...

What college did you attend, that you talked for an entire football game??!!

That's sacrilege in these parts.

At 19 November, 2008 09:47, Blogger samurai said...

Lance - tell me about it. I mean... it's FOOTBALL! :)

I think God was trying to get my attention. ;)


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